The other day during a conversation I came up with the idea for this blog. Strange how some things will trigger an idea :) Part of reassessing one's life is looking back on things, how you handled them, your actions and reactions, and has your views on life changed, and if so how?
So what better time of the year to write something like this than right before the new year, when one lets go of the old and makes room for the new.
My old self stressed a great deal. My new self still stresses but it's no where close to how my old self held onto things. So one thing I would tell my younger self is to relax more. You don't have to stress over every little thing that comes to your door. In fact, most of what you stressed over was really not as important as you thought it was. So lighten up, relax, and let life flow. Quit putting a dam on progress.
Don't take everything someone else says to you so personally. You will not be everyone's cup of tea so to speak. You do not have to be liked by all that know you. Everyone is not your friend, so don't think they are. And that's okay, because everyone comes across our paths for a reason, and not all of them come into our lives to bring sunshine and roses.
Listen to your inner voice more. Yes, it is right. Yes, it will show you where you need to be and what you need to do. Don't doubt it so much. You will save yourself a great deal of heartache by learning to listen and understand what it is telling you. So pay attention.
Tomorrow is another day. So don't tell yourself that the miles upon miles of things you've outlined for yourself to do in one day HAVE to be finished. Sometimes it's okay to let clutter build up in the corner until you have time to personally assess things. You expect too much from yourself and most times what you set upon yourself no mortal human would be able to finish in a day anyway.
Step outside yourself and don't judge. Everyone is going through something. And no, they don't always need your help. Sometimes everyone needs to find their own path, their own way, through difficult times. You cannot save the world but you can be the best person you can be. Have compassion for others and always remember they too are fighting their own battles in this life.
Just do your best. That is actually good enough. Yes, life is hard. Yes, life can kick our ass. But there is a lot of amazing in the world also. If you can't do something, it's okay, you can learn. If you find you're not cut out for it, you've tried it, you've decided you're not cut out for it, and that's okay too. If you find out it is something you enjoy, apply it to your life :) Yes, it's that's simple.
Open yourself up to explore the world a bit more. Sometimes the world is passing you by when you are so busy doing things that could wait. There is nothing wrong with letting people see the real you.
Take time each day to play. Don't be so serious all the time. Remember the old saying, all work and no play makes Jake a dull boy. Well the same goes for girls :)
Don't be so engrossed in work all the time. Make memories with those around you by being present in the moment. There is nothing more precious in this life than enjoying those around you.
Socialize more. Yes, come out of your writing cave. Come out of your seclusion, and be present with those around you from time to time. Yes, this means you will have to leave the comfort of your house. Yes, it does mean that sometimes you will have to go outside your comfort zone. But it will be well worth it, I promise.
Give yourself time to assess things in this life that happen. Don't be so hard on yourself when you don't seem to be healing in the time frame you think you should. It is okay to mourn the loss of yesterday. It is okay to be sad and embrace that emotion. It is okay to also embrace anger, self pity, happiness, love, and all the emotions that course through you at any given time. You are a writer, to write emotions you must understand them and all the reasons behind them. So lighten up on yourself and embrace your wonderfully emotional world.
Live each day with passion. There's nothing wrong with being passionate about things. Love with all your heart and soul, because each day is a gift and should be lived as such.
Don't compromise your beliefs, values, or ideas for anyone. The life you have lived thus far have given these to you. There is nothing wrong with holding onto them, growing within them, and allowing them to help you become a better person.
Stand up for what is right, even if you feel all alone. Don't worry, your older self is always right there by your side. There are lessons to be learned from the past, bring them into your present and embrace what they've taught you. These are what formed your convictions in the first place.
Most of all, younger self, love yourself unconditionally. Sure, you are going to have moments where you've opened your mouth and felt like you swallowed your entire foot. It's okay, everyone has those moments. Be forgiving of yourself and move forward. Love yourself with the same compassion you love others. Don't be afraid to say no once in awhile, because this is not being mean to someone else, but is giving you a chance to catch your breath, to love yourself, and to accept the person you are. You don't have to pretend you're something your not for others to love you, you just have to be you.
Everyone have a lovely night!!!
Blessings to all!!!