This is a common phrase, be the change, but what does it mean? I've always been a firm believer you can't just sit around the kitchen table and complain and expect changes to happen. However, I also know some changes in this world are bigger than we are. So how does it work? How do we be the change we wish to see?
Well, in life everything we do and see is from our own perception. This to me is the first change we need to make within ourselves. Not so much change our convictions and thoughts, but change the fact that all we see any situation from is our point of view. We broaden our horizons by looking at things from other angles. Sometimes this will change our point of view, other times it will make us stronger in our point of view.
I look back on my life and see how many thoughts and ideas within me have changed over the course of time because I work hard at opening myself to being in another's shoes. What this has done for me is allowed me to sometimes change my opinions on matters other times it only firms my beliefs.
Change begins at home. Simply put, your actions and reactions are what people around you see. If you live your convictions, if you are willing to listen to those around you with an open mind, and if you are open to change, well the world around you begins to change. People begin to take notice and maybe in some ways it changes them.
This coming from a very opinionated woman, you say, LOL. Yes, because I know first hand that when our mouths are open, our ears are closed. But the moment we close our mouths, listen, and absorb, we begin to open our eyes. We see beyond what we think and open ourselves to the possibilities.
I've made a good deal of enemies in this lifetime. However, I have also made a good many friends. My circle is filled with people who do not always see eye to eye on every topic of this life and I wouldn't have it any other way. I like the individualism of my friends.
The first thing I had to learn about being the change is also knowing that not everyone is comfortable with that term. I also understand it can change the way people look at you.
Being the change is not always easy. You will come across people in this life that no matter how hard you try, they will always look for your ulterior motive. That's fine, because frankly, we've not lived their life to understand why they can't trust a person at face value. So instead of getting your back up about that person, accept them. This is how being the change works.
I deal with the public on a daily basis in my day job. People from all walks of life. People who are set in their ways, strong in their convictions, and even people I believe have lived a hard rough life. All of these things make up who we are.
My main goal in this lifetime toward change is to be kind, understanding (even when I don't understand), and most of all let people see the real me. This is hard for me, because yes, I've had horrible trust issues in my lifetime and opening myself up to the outside world is difficult for me. Yet, for me to grow and be the change, I have to allow the outside world in from time to time. Not allow my kindness to come with string attached, but doing the right thing because it is what is right for me.
It is sort of like the pay it forward. One person does something for someone, then another person does something for someone else. None ever expecting more than each to pay it forward. That to me is when change in the world around you begins to happen.
Accepting everyone does not do everything as you do. Accepting everyone does not feel as strongly about certain topics as you do. Accepting that we are all different in this life and have lived different lives even if you grew up in the same households. This is opening oneself up to being the change you wish to see in the world.
So I guess you could say change begins at home. If you look at home as being your own body, your own soul.
Everyone have a lovely day!!!
Blessings to all!!!