Good morning, everyone!!!
One thing I can always count on in this life is no matter how well I make the plan of action it isn't going to play out like that...
I get these ideal situations in my head. I try very hard to work toward things in the manner I plan them out. Then BOOM, something goes wrong. Well, that is how my day went yesterday.
I had this vision of hubby and I working all day on getting things ready for when the kids came over last evening. Little did I know he had plans of his own.
So all morning and early afternoon, while my vision had us putting up the tree and getting things ready for last evening, his vision was get the oil changed in the truck, get it washed, and go to the fish store for more fish. LOL.
My vision had this nice neat package of me having everything prepared and ready when the kids got here. So my morning and early afternoon consisted of me in my own crazy world, running around from one room to the other doing a little bit of this and a whole lot of that.
Of course after a few hours I caught myself being a total bitch. Nothing was going as planned. I was stressing over the small stuff. Freaking out over other things. And just plain sucking the life right out of my day.
So, I put youtube on the tv. Played some Christmas music. Looked outside to see it was spitting snow. Apologized to hubby for being insane. Then took a deep breath and said, "It will all get done, it always does. Now relax."
Before that I was ready to throw in the towel. Call it a day. Pretend this time of year doesn't come. But afterwards, I found I was more relaxed and getting so much more done and in a timely fashion.
The food was almost all prepared when the kids began arriving. All that was left was the crescent rolls to be tossed in the oven. The tree was up, with all the lights perfectly in place and with just the right amount of garland. Hubby's good like that. The boxes of ornaments were out and ready to go. The stockings for the grandchildren ready to decorate. Life was good.
I guess you could say sometimes we just need to let go of the visions we have for any particular thing in life and just go with the flow. Don't stress and worry over the minor details, what matters is the end result. Everything came out like I'd hoped, even though, it didn't go in the order or manner in which I thought it would :)
I had a very lovely conversation with my daughter-in-law yesterday morning. I needed to vent some things off my chest. Which she allowed me to do. She also gave me a fresh perspective. Her words of wisdom reflected into my soul as I shouldn't let myself get discouraged about myself because someone always has to find fault with almost everything I do. It's their own problem, not mine. So I shouldn't treat it as my problem.
See, when you are always trying to find ways of growing inwardly, you sometimes stop and wonder if what someone else is saying about you is true. Especially if it seems like it is their life's mission on correcting you or finding fault in you. So, this does take it's toll once in awhile, and I have to question is this true???
You have to find a balance between going completely ape shit on them and just understanding they are going through something in their own life that they are uncomfortable with and want those around them to feel uncomfortable too.
Without my daughter-in-law's pep talk yesterday, I'm not really sure I could have went through with the rest of the day. Or even gotten out of the mood I was in. But, this wonderful young lady, wise beyond her years, helped me more than I think she actually knows. I'm ever so grateful to her.
A good deal of the time, during stressful situations, I believe I overthink things too much. I don't see things for what they are, but take things way too personally. It's a flaw in my character. But, it's all good. I pulled out of this one and will pull out of any more left to come in this life, I'm sure :)
Well if I am going to get my couple in my WIP out of this heated situation they're in, I better get to writing.
Everyone have a lovely day!!!
Blessings to all!!!
One thing I can always count on in this life is no matter how well I make the plan of action it isn't going to play out like that...
I get these ideal situations in my head. I try very hard to work toward things in the manner I plan them out. Then BOOM, something goes wrong. Well, that is how my day went yesterday.
I had this vision of hubby and I working all day on getting things ready for when the kids came over last evening. Little did I know he had plans of his own.
So all morning and early afternoon, while my vision had us putting up the tree and getting things ready for last evening, his vision was get the oil changed in the truck, get it washed, and go to the fish store for more fish. LOL.
My vision had this nice neat package of me having everything prepared and ready when the kids got here. So my morning and early afternoon consisted of me in my own crazy world, running around from one room to the other doing a little bit of this and a whole lot of that.
Of course after a few hours I caught myself being a total bitch. Nothing was going as planned. I was stressing over the small stuff. Freaking out over other things. And just plain sucking the life right out of my day.
So, I put youtube on the tv. Played some Christmas music. Looked outside to see it was spitting snow. Apologized to hubby for being insane. Then took a deep breath and said, "It will all get done, it always does. Now relax."
Before that I was ready to throw in the towel. Call it a day. Pretend this time of year doesn't come. But afterwards, I found I was more relaxed and getting so much more done and in a timely fashion.
The food was almost all prepared when the kids began arriving. All that was left was the crescent rolls to be tossed in the oven. The tree was up, with all the lights perfectly in place and with just the right amount of garland. Hubby's good like that. The boxes of ornaments were out and ready to go. The stockings for the grandchildren ready to decorate. Life was good.
I guess you could say sometimes we just need to let go of the visions we have for any particular thing in life and just go with the flow. Don't stress and worry over the minor details, what matters is the end result. Everything came out like I'd hoped, even though, it didn't go in the order or manner in which I thought it would :)
I had a very lovely conversation with my daughter-in-law yesterday morning. I needed to vent some things off my chest. Which she allowed me to do. She also gave me a fresh perspective. Her words of wisdom reflected into my soul as I shouldn't let myself get discouraged about myself because someone always has to find fault with almost everything I do. It's their own problem, not mine. So I shouldn't treat it as my problem.
See, when you are always trying to find ways of growing inwardly, you sometimes stop and wonder if what someone else is saying about you is true. Especially if it seems like it is their life's mission on correcting you or finding fault in you. So, this does take it's toll once in awhile, and I have to question is this true???
You have to find a balance between going completely ape shit on them and just understanding they are going through something in their own life that they are uncomfortable with and want those around them to feel uncomfortable too.
Without my daughter-in-law's pep talk yesterday, I'm not really sure I could have went through with the rest of the day. Or even gotten out of the mood I was in. But, this wonderful young lady, wise beyond her years, helped me more than I think she actually knows. I'm ever so grateful to her.
A good deal of the time, during stressful situations, I believe I overthink things too much. I don't see things for what they are, but take things way too personally. It's a flaw in my character. But, it's all good. I pulled out of this one and will pull out of any more left to come in this life, I'm sure :)
Well if I am going to get my couple in my WIP out of this heated situation they're in, I better get to writing.
Everyone have a lovely day!!!
Blessings to all!!!