I thought about my grandmothers, one taught me you are never too old to follow your dreams. It wasn’t in her words but her actions of going back to school, getting her GED, then graduating from nursing school to become a nurse at the very time my grandfather retired. I was in fifth grade when she graduated nursing school. It impacted me and my life. I raised my children, dabbled in writing while they were young, seeking out my career once they were grown.
The other grandmother showed me the person I wished to be in this life. A woman who no matter what time of day or night you would show up at her home, would have a spread of food to feed you, a few gallons of sweet tea in the fridge, and a cake on the bar. She worked hard, she loved fiercely, and wasn’t afraid of being who she was. She had morals and wasn’t afraid to tell you, “Sugar, don’t act like that, what will people say?”
These two women have inspired me, shaped me, and helped me become the woman I am today. However, so have so many others in my life. Baby Ali taught me that I could do the impossible, I could survive even once my heart had shattered into a million pieces. My grandchildren have taught me that love flows from a grandmother’s heart into theirs. My children have taught me how to love deeply. My husband has taught me that humor is a vital part of living every day. My parents have taught me endurance. My sisters have taught me life is full of ups and downs, we just have to go with the flow. My friends have taught me there are people out there who will lift you up when all you want to do is collapse and let the world pass you by.
I am a firm believer that everyone who enters your life has the power to be some sort of influence on who you become, good or bad. As I’ve grown older I’ve realized the importance of surrounding yourself with people who will lift you up, inspire you, and cheer you on when you fail. Life is full of mishaps and mistakes, hardships and failures. You don’t need to surround yourself with people who are ever ready to remind you of this.
It is those people in this life who surround you to bring positive into your life that will allow you the energy to go on when these mishaps and mistakes arrive. When you look in the mirror and all you see is failure, it is these people who come out of the woodwork to remind us, we are worth something and yes, it may be difficult right now, but tomorrow is another day and the sun does shine sometimes.