I'm running on about three hours worth of sleep today so it is definitely going to be interesting. I'm on my third cup of java hoping that will at least spark some energy :) The shower I will be taking in a few minutes should get me going :)
My work schedule changed again today, which I knew it would, so I really should have planned accordingly. However, I had things to do last evening so I just did what I had to do and will deal with today the best I can :)
I did accomplish what I set out to do last evening, YAY!!! I moved everything out of my living room that I could move out myself. All hubby needs to do today is move out the fish tank (with fish), the bookshelf units, the fireplace, tv, the loveseat, and the dog chair. Hopefully he'll be able to manage this stuff alone because I won't be here to help him as planned. But he's good like that :) We both expected the early morning call to go into work for me, so we're not sweating it :)
The upside of this is my work day will end earlier than expected :) Which is a plus. Maybe I can grab a nap before time to go out to eat with the kids this evening. Also, my new carpet is going to be laid today!!! So that is also a bright side to this day :)
Sometimes we must deal with people who think solely of themselves and say the hell with others. I honestly feel bad for this person. Because frankly they are sinking deeper and deeper into a world of despair and are cutting off the lifelines they once had available to them.
Ladies, I want to say something here. I guess men too should hear this. If someone you are with is absorbing every aspect of who you are then this is a relationship about to explode and not for the better. I hate standing on the sidelines watching someone lose themselves in someone else to the point that there is no sign of the person they once were left.
I feel somewhat experienced in relationships after being married for 31 and a half years. Giving your entire existence to someone is not healthy. You have to hold onto some parts of you. Isn't that why they fell in love with you to begin with? Sure, we all change over the course of time and yes, sometimes those changes aren't for the better. However, your partner is the one steadfast person in your world that helps you see the light. They remind you of who you are and what you're about, bringing you back to the right track versus destroying your world all together.
In my time on this earth, I have seen more women than not, giving themselves over to a relationship and ending up the worse for it. If you can't go five minutes without speaking to a person you're in a relationship with it might not be a healthy relationship. Sure, we miss them. Sure, we want to spend every moment with them. However, we have responsibilities to ourselves and those dependent on us which should take priority.
Maturity in relationships come when you can take your responsibilities seriously and have a partner who loves that about you. Smothering one another with a constant presence is not love, it is a time bomb waiting to happen and what breaks more relationships up. Everyone needs space and time even those in relationships.
All this does is implant distrust in a relationship. I watched someone once who couldn't even put clothes on in the morning until their partner picked out their clothes all the way down to their underwear. Every moment of every day they were not together they were on the phone with one another. The relationship soon fizzled because there was nothing left but distrust, even though they were in constant contact.
It's called suffocation. A fire cannot burn if it has no air. We cannot breathe if we smother ourselves.
Something I've always encouraged the young girls whom I've had contact with is to find yourself. Don't think that because you have some you time doesn't mean you love the person you're with any less. Find your own hobbies that make you happy. Find comfort in your alone time. Because someone else is not on this earth to be your sole purpose of happiness. At some point, you will find yourself alone. At that point what will you be seeking? Look for what makes you happy in this life and it will make your partner happy. Be yourself because you are loveable just as you are. Don't change yourself for the worst just to make someone like you, because that is not real love and it will fade away.
Relationships are hard work don't suffocate it before you have the chance to put in the hard work. It is worth it when you find someone who will help you become the best possible person you can be.
Just a few thoughts...
Everyone have a lovely day!!!
Blessings to all!!!