Good morning, everyone!!!
I do believe I am ready for this new week. We are planning another cookout for this Saturday at the store. All proceeds will go to Riley Children's Hospital :) So if you're out and about in our area stop by and grab a burger :) We have two weeks left of collecting for Riley's so this cookout will be our last big bang for this time :)
One of my biggest pet peeves is not taking responsibility for your actions. I guess I am just getting tired of being blamed for the actions of someone else. Not by others but by the person who refuses to take responsibility for what they are doing to themselves. They blame everyone around them all the while they refuse to change their behavior patterns which bring forth the results they are receiving. Then feel the need to go around saying horrible things about other people for taking necessary action because things have gotten so far out of hand.
I know what it is like to swim in your own negativity. I've been there done that for a long time in the past. I know you also have to come to the realization you can change things for the better but you have to do it yourself. You have to take responsibility for the things you do and quit blaming others for your choices. You have to take your own life in your hands and make things happen for yourself.
Looking at the negative all the time only allows you to see the negative aspects of life. This makes it hard for you to find happiness because you have trouble seeing the positives of the world around you. It is a pattern that is hard to break and takes a great deal of work to do so.
I remember those times well. I remember the struggle at the end of the day each day trying to find just one glimmer of something positive to reflect on. Normally it was just the smile of a grandchild or a tiny laugh. This is what started the change for my own life.
This is also where I learned to have a bit more with myself. Each day telling myself tomorrow will be better. Eventually, tomorrow came. I had to make the choice to see the world in a positive light. I worked toward it. I found it.
Right now there is quite a bit of negative that I could allow to take over my life in so many ways. However, I am not that person any longer. It breaks my heart to see this happening with someone else. I just hope that this experience is the wake up call they need to get back on track within themselves. I also wish they would take responsibility for their actions so they can grow within themselves. I know though, this probably won't happen. It is human nature to blame someone else for the bad things that happen to us in our lives. Taking responsibility is a choice that most of us don't want to make. Why? Because it's difficult, it's hard work, and most of all it normally doesn't make us look good in the eyes of others.
We can always 'justify' the things we do in this lifetime by placing blame elsewhere. It's just easier to blame someone else. Less work involved. It also allows our mind justification for our behavior. I understand this better than you know. I also know that just because we can justify our actions to ourselves, does not mean it is the right course of action to take. We have to ask ourselves, is what we are losing by blaming worth the loss? I know in the moment it seems like it is. But in hindsight, it usually isn't.
I had seven weeks and one day with a beautiful granddaughter. A good portion of that was spent angry, hating, and despising the man who put her in the hospital in the first place. I allowed my feelings toward him to steal what time I had with this beautiful angel to a point. Only toward the end did I steal some of those moments back. Allowing the negative to leave me for those few stolen moments of spending quality time with her. So yes, if I could go back and change things I would. I would leave my negative in the parking lot and focus solely on the time spent with her.
We never know how much time we have on this earth. It is our choice on how we live each of these days.
Everyone have a lovely day!!!
Blessings to all!!!
I do believe I am ready for this new week. We are planning another cookout for this Saturday at the store. All proceeds will go to Riley Children's Hospital :) So if you're out and about in our area stop by and grab a burger :) We have two weeks left of collecting for Riley's so this cookout will be our last big bang for this time :)
One of my biggest pet peeves is not taking responsibility for your actions. I guess I am just getting tired of being blamed for the actions of someone else. Not by others but by the person who refuses to take responsibility for what they are doing to themselves. They blame everyone around them all the while they refuse to change their behavior patterns which bring forth the results they are receiving. Then feel the need to go around saying horrible things about other people for taking necessary action because things have gotten so far out of hand.
I know what it is like to swim in your own negativity. I've been there done that for a long time in the past. I know you also have to come to the realization you can change things for the better but you have to do it yourself. You have to take responsibility for the things you do and quit blaming others for your choices. You have to take your own life in your hands and make things happen for yourself.
Looking at the negative all the time only allows you to see the negative aspects of life. This makes it hard for you to find happiness because you have trouble seeing the positives of the world around you. It is a pattern that is hard to break and takes a great deal of work to do so.
I remember those times well. I remember the struggle at the end of the day each day trying to find just one glimmer of something positive to reflect on. Normally it was just the smile of a grandchild or a tiny laugh. This is what started the change for my own life.
This is also where I learned to have a bit more with myself. Each day telling myself tomorrow will be better. Eventually, tomorrow came. I had to make the choice to see the world in a positive light. I worked toward it. I found it.
Right now there is quite a bit of negative that I could allow to take over my life in so many ways. However, I am not that person any longer. It breaks my heart to see this happening with someone else. I just hope that this experience is the wake up call they need to get back on track within themselves. I also wish they would take responsibility for their actions so they can grow within themselves. I know though, this probably won't happen. It is human nature to blame someone else for the bad things that happen to us in our lives. Taking responsibility is a choice that most of us don't want to make. Why? Because it's difficult, it's hard work, and most of all it normally doesn't make us look good in the eyes of others.
We can always 'justify' the things we do in this lifetime by placing blame elsewhere. It's just easier to blame someone else. Less work involved. It also allows our mind justification for our behavior. I understand this better than you know. I also know that just because we can justify our actions to ourselves, does not mean it is the right course of action to take. We have to ask ourselves, is what we are losing by blaming worth the loss? I know in the moment it seems like it is. But in hindsight, it usually isn't.
I had seven weeks and one day with a beautiful granddaughter. A good portion of that was spent angry, hating, and despising the man who put her in the hospital in the first place. I allowed my feelings toward him to steal what time I had with this beautiful angel to a point. Only toward the end did I steal some of those moments back. Allowing the negative to leave me for those few stolen moments of spending quality time with her. So yes, if I could go back and change things I would. I would leave my negative in the parking lot and focus solely on the time spent with her.
We never know how much time we have on this earth. It is our choice on how we live each of these days.
Everyone have a lovely day!!!
Blessings to all!!!