As much as I hate to see bad things happen to people, sometimes consequences for choices made are the only thing left that can happen.
I try to be mindful of the choices I make each day because I know life is all about choices and taking responsibility for those choices.
There is nothing sadder to me than watching someone make bad choices left and right, then place blame on those around them for the consequences that come from those choices.
It is human nature to see ourselves as nearly perfect. It is also human nature for us to hide from the choices we make each day. Human nature to find someone to blame for our circumstances.
Sure, how others act can effect our lives. Their choices can make things more difficult for our daily lives. But their choices on how they go through each day is up to them, regardless of how their choices effect others. It is up to us how much we allow their choices to be a part of our day. If we wallow in their attitudes and decisions, turning their choices to be a big part of our day, then we have made that choice to join our lives with theirs. To take on their issues, their problems, their attitudes. This is a choice we make. Sure, we could say, well, they make me feel this way. You're right, other people can make us feel certain ways. However, if they make us feel angry, worried, ready to climb the walls, well, that is our choice on how we allow them to affect us.
As most of you know, I'm all about trying to maintain a positive outlook on life. Sure, I hate when other people blame me or someone else for their choices, but just because they blame someone else does not mean it is someone else's fault. They are just having trouble accepting their own decisions and need an outlet for why.
I try very hard to assess situations that happen in my life. I try to remind myself just because someone says something to bring me or someone else down, doesn't necessarily mean it is true. People lash out for all sorts of reasons and often times this is the hardest aspect in life to see when they are throwing the blame game around.
Rising above these behavior patterns within ourselves is difficult but can be done. I personally hate when I allow myself to get down and out because of how someone else is acting. I hate that side of myself. I work very hard at trying to maintain a positive outlook on this life. I try to see the good to each side even the bad stuff. Or things that just make me angry. I assess why it makes me angry. Make the choice to either wallow in it or move on.
One big question I ask myself is, Can I change it? If the answer is no, I work hard to release the negative feelings it brings out in me. Sometimes this can take a few days. If the answer is yes, I go deeper into thinking and making decisions on how to change it. Then I start the process of making the changes. This can take even longer than letting go of the harsh feelings of something one can't change.
To me, life is about forward motion. One thing I've learned over the course of my lifetime is we can't move forward if we are always standing in the same place emotionally. If we allow one person's choices to take over our lives, making it our problem also, then we will allow the next person's bad choices to do the same, and so on and so on. It is a never ending cycle we can find ourselves trapped in.
So today, take charge of your destiny. Take responsibility for your choices and don't push them off on someone else. Stake claim to your life and grab every moment possible in a day. Because when the day is done, the choice is up to you!!!
Everyone have a lovely day!!!
Blessings to all!!!