Staying positive is sometimes a hard task to handle especially when chaos is trying to break down your door. However, just as my flow card stated I need to say what is on my mind versus just let it go, because sometimes what needs to be said needs to be said.
Ahhhh, I have to say the flow card was absolutely right. I refuse to apologize for working hard to achieve my goals and dreams. For that would deflate the satisfaction that comes with working hard to watch them go from dream to reality.
Nothing in this life is easy and sure as hell nothing in this life is free. By no means has anything in this life been handed to me. In fact, I've worked my ass off to get where I am today.
Becoming a published author does not fall into your lap, no matter what one might think. Time, energy, sleepless nights and insanity take up a good portion of the trip from writing the first word to publication. People will ask why do you do it if you have to still work outside your home? That's simple, I write because I love writing, reading, and the created word.
No, I never consider it a hobby, I consider it a second full time job. It takes a great deal to write, promote, and cover all aspects of writing business. I'm fortunate enough to have the time to put into two jobs. With my husband gone over the road for long stretches and my children all grown. Not all authors have this luxury. Such as spending a whole day off listening to and approving an audio book for publication. Most have to stop what their doing to clean the house and feed it's occupants, not me, I can let the housework slide to focus my attention on my second job and give it the time I need to put into making it successful, and when I remember to eat, well, I remember to eat.
People have such a misconception of what being an author is all about. They think we get this big check to sit and write stories and never have to think about another thing. Well, that doesn't happen these days. You spend hours in front of a computer writing that story. You hope to the Goddess people will love your story. You pound away at the keyboard, day in and day out. You send it off only to receive rejection after rejection. Or you decide to self publish which is a whole new ballgame. Many hours of research only to find in mid edits you've gotten the entire time frame wrong, or the wrong war, or the wrong... well you get the picture.
I often hear, well, with social media so popular it must be easy to promote your books. I get the biggest kick out of that. Sure social media is a wonderful tool, but it is also a time drain from writing. Every hour we spend on social media is an hour we aren't writing. Would we change it? No, not one bit, we love socializing with our readers. We schedule it just like the rest of our days.
The pay, well, unless you're a well known author, the pay... well, let's just say we don't make millions an hour or even close to that a year. So what do we get out of writing stories if the pay isn't what people believe it is? We get to spend our days and nights engrossed in a world of our own making. With characters we grow to love with each word typed. We get to know people we would not get to meet if we weren't writers. Being an author is rewarding in its own right.
Outside jobs, well, let's just say, I'm the type of person who does not believe in doing anything half assed. A man once told me way back in the day that a job worth doing is worth doing right the first time. Don't tell yourself I can do it this way right now and come back later to fix it, because later never comes. He was right. So when I do a job, I do a job. I take it seriously. I put my heart and soul into it. Because I know no other way to work. Maybe that's the author in me, who knows. I love writing with passion and living with the same passion.
So, I guess you could say I have no room in my life for negative, for bullshit, for the unnecessary. My focus needs to be centered at all times on the day ahead. I must maintain my positive outlook on each day to achieve what I must, because my job doesn't do itself, nor does my writing. I get aggravated if the negative tries to creep in and take over because frankly I have no time for other people's self inflicted drama nor do I like being sucked into it.
Everyone have a lovely night!!!
Blessings to all!!!