Good evening, everyone!!!
Don't worry I am going to explain this title, I promise.
In our household during Christmas time over the last 30 years, we've honored the ones who've gone on before us with an ornament on our tree. And for sissy, Ali, the grandchildren still make a homemade stocking for her each year to hang from the fireplace next to her siblings and cousins.
I guess this helps us remain closer to our loved ones during a time when it's hard to be reminded they are gone. Each year when someone is lost to us throughout the year, we create or find an ornament that reminds us of them. Something that speaks to us. We put their name on the ornament and place it on the tree.
Each year the grandchildren come to our house and decorate the tree and their stockings for Santa to fill. I am so blessed to have grandchildren that even though they grow older, still want to ensure the magic of the season for the younger. The two oldest assured me that as long as the youngest still wants to make stockings, they will be right beside her making theirs too. I love their beautiful hearts.
Each year they look over every ornament that goes on the tree, pointing out the ones of our loved ones who've passed on. Sometimes they have questions about the relative, other times they tell us something they might remember about a loved one.
As I grow older, I can't help but hope that one day even just one of them will begin this tradition once their grown and have their own home.
The holidays are times when every family has some sort of tradition even if they don't realize it is a tradition. A special recipe, like the stuffing hubby's mother used to make each year that I still make every year since her passing. Or decorations on a tree. A special time like decorating a Christmas tree with grandchildren. Even the simple things like gathering to make cookies, or a special shopping trip. All of these things are traditions we find ourselves looking forward to each year.
When life is over, we are just memories to our loved ones. A time in a chapter of their lives we hope to have impacted in some way. I think of these things often, not because I wish for death, but I wish for the life I live to one day be remembered fondly by those who remember me. I often think of where my life is headed and where I would like to be in the future. I think about the memories I have with loved ones and how they impacted my life and who I have become.
Regardless, we will all one day be someone's memory. I always tell hubby, the only person that can make or break a relationship are the two people involved in said relationship. You can't expect others to build a relationship for you. You have to put in the effort. You have to involve yourself in the lives of those you wish to have a relationship with. It can't always be one sided, but both ways.
I hear so many people say things like, "They never call." "Why do they tell you this stuff but not me?" "I don't have time to do this or that."
Ask yourself, "Do you call?" "Do you confide in them?" "Do you try to make time for this or that?"
Life is a perception we never want to look at from a different perspective. Is there a reason you haven't heard from a loved one? Do they have a lot on their plate, so any free time feels like a small moment of bliss for them? Just because you have time doesn't mean someone else will have time. Life is busy. Shoot a text, when they have time, they'll answer. If you call and they don't answer, don't get offended, realize life may be hectic at the moment.
When I plan things with the kids (other than my, "Hey, can you come help me get this stuff cooked up?" LOL) I try to plan in advance. It's something to look forward to, it's something to plan for, and this way they can add us to their busy schedules. I try to go in with options by finding out what works for everyone. When you have 3 grown children and 4 grandchildren with busy schedules of their own, it's hard to find the time sometimes. Then throw in a trucker's schedule and you can say sometimes it's damn near impossible to find a moment.
This year our Christmas is going to be early, due to work schedules and such. Will it still feel like Christmas. You better bet it will. It's not about the day it's about the people who share it with you.
So, I guess you could say, one day I hope to be an ornament on a Christmas tree, for family members to remember, at least for that moment, some of the times we've shared and the happy memories we've made. Because to me, once I am gone, I hope to be remembered fondly by those I love dearly.
Everyone have a lovely day...
Blessings to all...
Don't worry I am going to explain this title, I promise.
In our household during Christmas time over the last 30 years, we've honored the ones who've gone on before us with an ornament on our tree. And for sissy, Ali, the grandchildren still make a homemade stocking for her each year to hang from the fireplace next to her siblings and cousins.
I guess this helps us remain closer to our loved ones during a time when it's hard to be reminded they are gone. Each year when someone is lost to us throughout the year, we create or find an ornament that reminds us of them. Something that speaks to us. We put their name on the ornament and place it on the tree.
Each year the grandchildren come to our house and decorate the tree and their stockings for Santa to fill. I am so blessed to have grandchildren that even though they grow older, still want to ensure the magic of the season for the younger. The two oldest assured me that as long as the youngest still wants to make stockings, they will be right beside her making theirs too. I love their beautiful hearts.
Each year they look over every ornament that goes on the tree, pointing out the ones of our loved ones who've passed on. Sometimes they have questions about the relative, other times they tell us something they might remember about a loved one.
As I grow older, I can't help but hope that one day even just one of them will begin this tradition once their grown and have their own home.
The holidays are times when every family has some sort of tradition even if they don't realize it is a tradition. A special recipe, like the stuffing hubby's mother used to make each year that I still make every year since her passing. Or decorations on a tree. A special time like decorating a Christmas tree with grandchildren. Even the simple things like gathering to make cookies, or a special shopping trip. All of these things are traditions we find ourselves looking forward to each year.
When life is over, we are just memories to our loved ones. A time in a chapter of their lives we hope to have impacted in some way. I think of these things often, not because I wish for death, but I wish for the life I live to one day be remembered fondly by those who remember me. I often think of where my life is headed and where I would like to be in the future. I think about the memories I have with loved ones and how they impacted my life and who I have become.
Regardless, we will all one day be someone's memory. I always tell hubby, the only person that can make or break a relationship are the two people involved in said relationship. You can't expect others to build a relationship for you. You have to put in the effort. You have to involve yourself in the lives of those you wish to have a relationship with. It can't always be one sided, but both ways.
I hear so many people say things like, "They never call." "Why do they tell you this stuff but not me?" "I don't have time to do this or that."
Ask yourself, "Do you call?" "Do you confide in them?" "Do you try to make time for this or that?"
Life is a perception we never want to look at from a different perspective. Is there a reason you haven't heard from a loved one? Do they have a lot on their plate, so any free time feels like a small moment of bliss for them? Just because you have time doesn't mean someone else will have time. Life is busy. Shoot a text, when they have time, they'll answer. If you call and they don't answer, don't get offended, realize life may be hectic at the moment.
When I plan things with the kids (other than my, "Hey, can you come help me get this stuff cooked up?" LOL) I try to plan in advance. It's something to look forward to, it's something to plan for, and this way they can add us to their busy schedules. I try to go in with options by finding out what works for everyone. When you have 3 grown children and 4 grandchildren with busy schedules of their own, it's hard to find the time sometimes. Then throw in a trucker's schedule and you can say sometimes it's damn near impossible to find a moment.
This year our Christmas is going to be early, due to work schedules and such. Will it still feel like Christmas. You better bet it will. It's not about the day it's about the people who share it with you.
So, I guess you could say, one day I hope to be an ornament on a Christmas tree, for family members to remember, at least for that moment, some of the times we've shared and the happy memories we've made. Because to me, once I am gone, I hope to be remembered fondly by those I love dearly.
Everyone have a lovely day...
Blessings to all...
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